“When you have to make a choice and don’t make it, that is in itself a choice.” – William James Choosing not to choose is a choice. You are abdicating your preferences, leaving others to choose for you. They normally do not choose what you want, and then, you are disappointed. Our brain is tricky, […] Read more »

Find Out Rather Than Suppose

“It is wiser to find out than to suppose”—Mark Twain This makes sense, yet we often presume things about others, especially our mates, causing many misunderstandings. This is a common thought distortion we practice called, Jumping To Conclusions. Its subsets are Mind Reading – presuming to know what the other person is really thinking, and […] Read more »

An Age-By-Age Guide to Helping Kids Manage Emotions

How we react to our kids’ emotions has an impact on the development of their emotional intelligence. Source: An Age-By-Age Guide to Helping Kids Manage Emotions “In other words, how we react to our kids’ emotions has an impact on the development of their emotional intelligence.” Absolutely correct. Here is a great article on helping […] Read more »

Journeys Are The Midwives of Thought – Turning Inward

Thought of the day: “Journeys are the midwives of thought. Few places are more conducive to internal conversations than moving planes, ships or trains.” – Alain de Botton Where do you grab your time to turn inward? Do you take those moments to reflect, to work out a problem, to daydream? Do you take the […] Read more »

Surround Yourself With Healthy Couples And Friends

Whenever we find ourselves falling into cruise control, we’re reminded that even the best relationships require regular maintenance. Here is a great article from the Gottman Institute. I think this also applies to single people and friends. Surround yourselves with healthy people, not ones who are negative, not ones who drag you down. Be with […] Read more »

The 7 Daily Essentials for Brain Health

The 7 Daily Essentials for Optimal Brain Health Dr. Dan Siegel saw that the US Dept of Agriculture replaced the food pyramid with a plate to remind people of what a healthy diet looked like, and he thought, how about doing that for optimal brain function? So, he designed a plate with the 7 essentials […] Read more »

Great Resource

Here is a great resource for all sorts of help and groups in the area – Trident United Way’s 2-1-1 helpline. It is open 24 hours a day,seven days a week. http://www.sc211.org/index.php/component/cpx/?task=search.query&view=&page=34&search_history_id=84589782&unit_list=0&akaSort=0&advanced=true&query=%20&simple_query=&code=SUPPORT-GROUPS-AND-CARE-GIVERS,PN-8100,PH-7000,RP-1400.8000-145,PH-7000.3300-040,PH-2400.7000,PN-8000,PH-2400.3300,PH-3300,PH-6200.4600,LH-4600,ND-3400.8000,LR-1550,FT-4950,LT-2800.4500,RR Read more »

Why Does Couple’s Counseling Sometimes Fail?

I was recently posed a question, as to why couple’s therapy does not always work, even if one person, or both, may want it to. I thought it an excellent question. Here is my response to that person, and I thank them for the opportunity to discuss this. Being happily married for over 25 years, […] Read more »

Even Pets Are Victimized By Domestic Violence

Puppy Abandoned in Airport Bathroom with Devastating Note Because There Was ‘No Other Option’ Here is a sad story with a happy ending. A puppy, abandoned in a bathroom because the owner could not afford to take him with her, as she was fleeing an abusive situation, finds a good Samaritan and a forever home. […] Read more »