Here is a great TED Talk on Perspective, and why we have such a difficult time considering another person’s point of view. If we go with the soldier mindset, we will probably worsen the argument. The scout seeks to understand, is intellectually curious, and is willing to consider new information, to see what is really there. This is the better way to go in problem solving with your partner. Be the scout, not the soldier when it comes to resolving differences with your mate, your children, or coworkers.